So my bf went clubbing n this is what happened.. PLZ READ kinda long?

ok im 22 n my bf is 23.. we've been together for 2 years..

havent broken up even once or not even for a day.. we're in a great relationship.. my bf goes clubbing once in awhile with his friends.. im ok with that.. my bf isnt really the outgoing type of guy who dances at clubs.. ppl have told me that he just usually stands around with his boys.. and seems to enjoy the music.. have a beer or whatever.. so this past saturday.. he went to a club with them.. i talked to him before he went.. i heard his boys in his car talkin n stuff.. n then durin the club.. i called him a few times.. he picked up.. n he cud barely hear me.. but he was talkin LOUD.. n saying "babyyy.. yea im in downtown... yeaa ill call u as sooon as we're out" so i probably talked to him 3 times durin 12-3am..



so yea last night i was jus really bored.. i went on some online chat room n start talkin to this guy.. i added him on msn.. n we started talkin about the relationship we’re in. and I had a pic on the display of my bf.. and the guys like.. yo does is ur bf’s name ____and does ur bf have an older brother named.. ____ so the guy knew my bf n his older bro cuz they lived in the same area.. n he told me how his brother tried to “pick up” his ex girlfriend once upon a time.. n that’s how he knows him.. and im like so do u know my bf.. hes like yea I just seen him around n stuff.. n then hes like yoo he was at a club this Saturday I saw him.. so im like yea I know.. n then im like so was he dancing lol.. n hes like “yea man he was trying to mack girls and dance with them” n im thinking.. in my head that my bf’s not the dancing type of guy… n then I asked him to be more clear.. hes like well he was juss walkin around the dance floor.. n dancing n it seemed like he was tryin to look for girls to dance with.. like what guys do at clubs.. n then hes like later on I saw him standin upstairs on the smokers patio havin a smoke with some chick… n im like but my bf doesn’t smoke… n hes like well I donno wat he was smoking then.. cuz my bf HATES cigarettes n cant stand them.. if his boys smoke in his car.. he’ll make them get out n smoke.. (but he does smoke weed-marijuana once in a while) but I donno if guys can smoke weed at clubs in toronto.. so im not sure.. n hes like yea they were havin a conversation.. n yea.. its making me so mad.. I didn’t wanna ask my bf anything.. but when my bf called me last nite.. I asked him.. about when he went clubbin on Saturday… did he know any girls there.. n hes like no… so even if its true.. he wasn’t talking to an old friend.. it was a new random girl.. so then im like I saw some pictures online on some website from that club.. n he didn’t say nething.. hes like ok.. n then I changed the topic cuz I didn’t want to be annoying.. now im thinking im gonna ask him in person when I see him today.. how should I ask him? Do u think this guy could be lieing..? it didn’t really seem like he was lieing.. and I want him to stop going to clubs cuz I cant take this stuff.. like hearing that hes tryin to dance with girls… or that hes talking to some girl there.. anything could happen u know.. u never know these days..

but I trust him.. he called me right after the club too.. so I donno… im just thinking abt it too much I guess.. I was thinking of telling him that one of my friends told me how she saw him there talking to some girl on the patio.. n see what he says?

So my bf went clubbing n this is what happened.. PLZ READ kinda long?
Oh hell... I'm sorry, but reading this is excruciating.
Reply:Sweetie... (2) things are wrong here... 1st - you hooked up with a guy online... 2nd - you asked this "stranger" to give you info %26amp; that was all that was needed to start the "story". This stranger is lying to you. And the sad thing is, you are buying into it... if you are going "why" right now, it's because he can, for his own personal gain. You brought this on yourself... If you don't care enough for your relationship, then tell your boyfriend so, %26amp; stop trying to blame him. He has done nothing wrong. You however, stepped over the line when you got online to chat it up with "another guy"! I feel sorry for your boyfriend. He doesn't deserve this.
Reply:The guy online was trying to start trouble between you and your bf because he is interested in you. Don't believe a word he says and get on with your life. Do not start a fight with your guy over something you were told on the internet...



Not to mention, you can't get pissed off at him for talking to some girl on a patio (if he even was), when you are sitting online talking to some guy who is a stranger - that makes absolutely no sense.
Reply:Why don't you just go to the club with him sometime? See how he reacts to the idea when you tell him you want to go there sometime.
Reply:ur trippin who cares
Reply:damn girl you azz could write a book..the shitz is long..i fell asleep while reading..nah just kidding....anyway..yeah you could mention to him that your friend saw him at the club..and they saw him with some chik and put other stuff in there to to see what he says...like she/he said that you were dancing with different girls and your were smoking shitz...but baby i know you wouldnt do that..right..and leave it there..see what he says..

but girl i feel you on this clubbing thing..my man hangs with his friends and i have no problem with it..but if he goes to a club i am paraniod because i know how it is there,,you have hungry women..who ONLy come to these clubs to have guys buy them drinks or rub they nasty coochie on our men..so girl i feel you....women these days will know that you have a man but will do anything to have them..



i say whatever you feel discuss it with him..communication is the key..and you guys have been together a while now like my BF and i..trust him..beleive him..love him treat him good ..so that his azz wont have a reason to go to these nasty chicks out there..email me if you want...moneyonthemoney@yahoo.com
Reply:well how do u know teh guy wasnt on dope?

he could of been lieng.....

and if he usaully in the back he posibly cuould ofhad to many beers and thats why he did it and he could of gotten drunk and cant remember lol idk....

i would jus le t it go he obviousclilly likes u.....

I would ask him one more and he says i dint then beieve him....

i would atleast.....

oh and i agree with that spaznskitz chk
Reply:So he talks to you all night long....dances with other woman.... calls you .... smokes w/ other woman ... calls you..... comes home at what time did you say...?? Oh... I'll bet hes just bein friendly..... humnnnn ...humn,.....humn...
Reply:Babe, I see trouble on your horizon. First, never call him on your cell phone when he's out with the guys. That's askin' for trouble. Then think about this: with all the lyin' that everbody does on IMs, why should the stuff about your bf be true? --Chill.
Reply:You're too uptight. Whats wrong with dancing with random chicks at the club? You're there to have fun. You don't like him talking to other human beings?
Reply:ok! you can chat online with this guy and add him on your fav list,but your man who you love and trust so much can't dance or chat with any females without you knowing.this does'n t

quite add up.don't be so insecure,be honest with him about

what you were doing and he'll be honest with you.or the best thing to do is to forget all about your conversation with mr no it all and continue to love your man.
Reply:sounds good and im sorry if he has been chatting up other girls
Reply:just casually say that I was chatting online and this guy said he saw you at the club on saturday and well he said you were dancing and ..... you know watever