Should i go out with this guy, he's been askin for ages but hes alot older than any other guy i've been with?

Well firstly i'm 15, i dont get on with my parents so for like 3 years i've just hung out in town and stayed over at mates! Theres this guy he is 22 (7 years older) he has sort of looked after me and i thought of him as a brother till now! I think he is gourgous-like my dream guy and he's tough- but last summer he got really drunk and told me that he love me at a party and that if i'm sick of my folks i should live with him! I confrunted him about if but he just disappeared for 2 months while he stayed with friends he never called any1 while he was away then came back and acted like everything was noraml!! He keeps asking me to meet up with him! But i don't know what to do he says " he's seen me grow up into his ideal women and he doesnt want to lose me" I think he is being genuine and he has talked to alot of people about it but he smoke to much weed and is alot older! What should i do! Should i met him on saturday or stay clear!?? Please help!

Should i go out with this guy, he's been askin for ages but hes alot older than any other guy i've been with?
no don't do it your too young
Reply:He'd be breaking the law if he did anything sexual with you, just so you know that.





He sounds like he's feeding you a lot of lines and he may be immature, but I don't understand why someone his age is asking out someone your age. It's pretty inappropriate. Don't disobey your parents and certainly don't move in with him. He sounds very unstable (drinking and drugs are not good and both illegal for YOU) and confused, so I'd recommend hanging out with people your own age. Tell him when you're 18, you'll consider being more than friends with him, but right now it's not a good idea.
Reply:he is only after one thing dont be blinded by attention what he is probly showing you at the moment behind your back he is avin a laugh with is older mates that you will be is latest conquest-get rid now you have been warned
Reply:I dont think that the age gap is the problem here, coz i think that if you like someone it does not matter how old they are. But i am more concerned that he smokes alot of weed. If you also smoke alot of weed, then i spose its not a problem, but otherwise, please be careful. It wouldnt hurt just to meet him and see what he has to say, so i would go and meet him. Good luck!
Reply:you should go but take care theres twelve years diffrence between my wife and i and we are so happy age shouldnt come in to it if your unsure take a frend with you as well good luck and go for it you only live once
Reply:Don't do it luv!
Reply:you are way, way, way too young.





Stay away from this guy!





How can he say that you have grown up into a woman when you are still a girl?
Reply:Stay clear.If you dont youll turn into a druggie like him.He shouldnt be asking you out anyway,your TOO young.He has one thing in mind huney,and its not your best interest!He wants down your pants,and he'll take advantage of you if you let him.Dont go any farther than you have already.Dont go past friendship.If being his friend is going to be hard,quit hanging out with him.Thats what you shouldve done A LONG time ago!!!


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Reply:stay clear, he sounds like bad news...and move back in with your parents!! you're 15!!
Reply:why do **** you care how old this guy is, as long as you really like him. Then that's it.
Reply:You are at an age when you are growing into an adult and wanting your own independence, hence, life with your parents may be tough, although believe me they probably have your best interests at heart and in a few years your relationship may change.





This guy is much older than you and will have different expectations. It may seem like a way out of your troubles to run off with him, although I suspect your troubles will escalate. Stay put and be thankful to have him as a friend and that you still have both of your parents alive and willing to look after you.





p.s. Please steer clear of the weed - it is a downward spiral from there.
Reply:He wants to get into your knickers. When he has had his evil way he will vanish, either leaving you up the pole or with a dose.
Reply:I think you should stay clear. And no disrespect, but you're just a young woman who's still coming into her own. You're not ready for that type of age gap yet, trust me. He needs to find someone his own age. Also, these are traits you need to look at now, he disappears and he doesn't communicate with you at all. So who is to say that he doesn't use this same technique anywhere else in his life? Just enjoy life and take it slow, you're not missing much, just stay clear of the emotional highway.
Reply:He has seen you grow up into his ideal woman? YOU ARE 15!!!!! You are not a woman and if a 22 year old man is messing with you, then it is illegal and wrong! Not only is he too old for you at your age, but he smokes weed? Where do you find these people?





Honey, leave him alone.....steer clear....whatever you want to call it. Enjoy your young years before you wreck your life over some older bum who spends too much time drugged up.....I mean come on, what kind of future does he offer you?





Just wait a few more years and you can meet mature young men who actually have something to offer.
Reply:No, a 27 year old man who wants a 15 year old girl is a sick pervert.


He's a weirdo- stay away if you're smart.
Reply:When your 22, will you be eying up 15 year old kids. This guy should be in a PRISON cell where he'd be a girlfriend for all the other scum. Pedo-child abusing filth like him need castrating. Do you really think he's normal. By the way, all 15 year old kids hate their parents, because they don't let you smoke, drink, have sex and all the other things little girls think they r old enough to do. When youv'e got kids, you'll understand.
Reply:Um... ok... i don't know where to start really.





First of all what you are discussing here is probably to complicated for you right now. I mean if he wants a relationship with you that badly then he can wait a few years for you to finish maturing. The thing is that the person that you are today is not going to be the same person that you are 3 years from now.





I would say that you should stay away - or tell him that he should wait for you till you are ready. If all he wants to do is go out you are still to young yet.





You should not be in such a hurry to grow up and it sounds to me like he is looking to take advantage of the fact that you need a place to stay. So do yourself a favor and stay out of a relationship with this guy for the time being at least. If he really loves you then he will understand your need to wait for a while.





Good luck.
Reply:your still a kid....15...not old enough for a man of that age...he could get arrested for going anywhere near you....do you want to be branded as jail bait....do some growing up first
Reply:Go out with this guy as a friend - DO NOT DATE HIM.


If he respects you then he will understand. If he doesnt understand then Like most people answering you question you will have to be cruel to be kind.


You will be getting older and wiser by this experience but hopefully you will remain friends because thats hat you want.
Reply:I think you should go for it but don't go to fast. It seems ok and he sounds alright but he may be a jerk and an as s so watch your step
Reply:First, there is his drug use. By your own admission, this man smokes too much weed - and any weed at all is too much. His decision-making is skewed by his intoxication, and what he says and does while high may have nothing to do with reality. Thus, you can't be sure how he really feels about you and where his boundaries lie.





I don't know what the laws are where you are, but do not get involved with this man if it is illegal. If you care about him, you do not want him going to jail over you. Also, his use of illegal drugs makes you culpable if you know he has them and you two are caught together - and you don't want to wind up in prison.





Finally, seven years is an age gap that is more and less important at different stages of life: a 50 year old dating a 57 year old does not even merit remarking, but a 15 year old has little in common with a 22 year old. Either he is painfully immature or just looking for a sexual escapade with a much younger girl. You deserve to find an equal, a peer, someone you can relate to on every level, and this man has had a lot more life experience than you have. If he really feels that you are the "perfect woman" then he will be willing to wait until you are older to pursue a realtionship, if he means that relaitonship to be meaningful at all.
Reply:my advise is to stay away from this so called friend of your´s you are to young , he´s only after one thing, I think you should go home to your parents %26amp; sort thing´s out with them. best thing is to talk about your problems. . Growing up is very hard , but you should know that this person is no good for you otherwise you would´t ask the question
Reply:NO.





Don't date guys more than one or two years older than you until you get out of high school and even then be careful of their motives.





Much better, tell your parents about the pervert and they can either have him arrested or better yet your father can take him out into the desert for a nice permanent one way trip.
Reply:Whats wrong with staying just friends? Anything sexual between he and you would be illegal and no disrespect to you but what would a 22 year old man see in a 15 year old child.


You have plenty of time to grow into a young woman and have relationships and all they entail. If you are that desperate to have a boyfriend I would say find someone your own age, you really dont need anyone that much older that is into drugs in the way that this guy is.


You will be an adult soon enough enjoy your teens while you can.
Reply:stay well away he will drag you down to hes level you should be concentrating on your future
Reply:so you like to turn in your boyfriends to the cops, do you?
Reply:Definately stay clear. I've been out with alot of older guys and used to think it was okay but now looking back it so isn't.





Its wrong for a guy of 22 to fancy a girl of your age.
Reply:There's a word for adult men who ask out 15 year olds - pedaphiles. When he says "You're growing into the ideal woman" what he's really saying is "You're young so I feel I can dominate you and force you to be what I want". Don't fall into that trap.





If you're 15 and getting attention like that you need a safer place to live. If living with your parents is so bad you should try and Aunt or Uncle or something but you really need to be living with a SAFE adult - not one that's trying to get you in bed.
Reply:As a parent of 3 grown children, you won't like my answer, but I hope you will read it and know that what I'm saying is from experience and no reflection on you.





No one under 16 should date anyone over 18.


No one between 16 %26amp; 18 should date anyone over 19.





This is not a matter of the teenager's maturity, it is a matter of safety. You have not been around long enough to know how to spot a child molester. You may feel like this 22 year old man knows you. He does! He knows how to manuplate young girls. He knows how to get your trust. It wouldn't be long before you would end up another missing child. You might end up dead.





Is your life worth seeing this man or would you be better off finding a friend your age?





Don't bet your life on it, please.
Reply:No he is too old for you and he sounds like a pedofile.
Reply:go out with someone your own age and don't get involved with this guy you are too young and it sounds like he is a bad influence . go to school work hard and mix with kids your own and don't grow up too fast

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